We all have them and we all just hate it when they’re around. Every family has at least a few toxic members who simply make our life miserable. Even when we grow up and become adults, these people have a way of ruining our life, one way or another, and no matter how hard we try, there’s no way around it.
They think that they know best and that we know nothing at all. Their point of view is the only point of view that matters and they don’t want to even consider taking someone else’s opinion in consideration. We’re shallow and ungrateful and we should know better than to mess with them. They don’t care if you’re hurt, all they care about is always being right. There’s no point in trying to tell them how you feel or trying to reason with them, they will never change their mind. In their mind, nothing you do is ever good enough and they will never approve of you or your actions.
But enough is enough – you’re an adult now and you need to set a good example for your kids and the other family members that are forced to tolerate their toxic actions. You need to stand up to them and show them exactly what you think of them and we’re here to show you how to do it.
Firmly stand your ground
Muster the courage, prepare yourself and stand up to that toxic family member that’s making your life miserable. Just confront them and ask them why are they being so mean to you? Demand to know the reason why they’re treating you so bad and don’t let yourself be bullied again. Just remember that nothing you say will change the way they behave, but you will let them know that you will no longer tolerate it. Show them that you’re not weak and that they cannot walk all over you. If you show them that you’re strong, they will leave you alone.
Don’t forget their actions
Always remember the way they’ve treated you and never forget all the pain they’ve caused you. Don’t hate them, just remember all the things they’ve done and have it in mind next time you meet them. This way you’ll be prepared and you won’t let their negativity affect you. You’ll know that their mean behavior is expected and you won’t be surprised.
Spend more time with positive people
One thing that will help you get your mind off these toxic people is spending more time with positive people. Their energy is contagious and their happiness will rub off on you. Surround yourself with more positive people and avoid the toxic ones – this is the key to happiness.
Don’t take everything they say to heart
They can be really mean and do horrible things but you shouldn’t take what they say too seriously. Don’t get overwhelmed by their toxicity and simply don’t think about their actions. They really are mean to everyone so the truth is that their actions speak more about themselves than you. Just take their words lightly and don’t let them bother you.
Find your weak spot
We all have a soft spot and these toxic people know it and will take advantage of it. Find your soft spot and don’t let them take advantage of it. Stay strong and defend your ground, once they see they can’t affect you, they’ll lose interest.