Toxic people are everywhere. I am sure all of us have a toxic person in the family or in the friendship circle. Some of us don’t even know that we have a toxic person but somehow we can feel it.
You can recognize a toxic person if you always feel like they drain your energy, manipulate you and do you harm without any remorse. All of us had a situation to be hurt by someone. Maybe the person that hurt us did not want to hurt us, in that case they will ask for forgiveness and that does not mean that they are toxic people.
On the other hand, toxic people are those who don’t have remorse. They do not feel quilt, so it is easy for them to hurt people. A normal person would consider the feelings of the person they want to hurt. And if they hurt you they will be sorry and maybe try to fix the situation in some way, but not toxic people. If a toxic person hurts you, and it is likely that they do, they do not care. They won’t even notice or know that they hurt you and enjoy your pain.
It is hard to understand the toxic person, if you are a normal person. You cannot understand how it is to hurt someone and feel no guilt. Most of us feel guilt and shame when we hurt someone in some ways, we try to fix things. We do everything in our power to fix the situation and we apologize. Most of us can put yourself in the shoes of others. We do not do things to others what we do not want others to do to us.
And even when we hurt someone, we apologies and make things better. On the other hand, toxic people do not apologize. They would do the same thing if they have a chance again. They will hurt you again. And if you want justice, you will probably ask for them to apologize to you, but that will not happen. Even if they do it is not honest. They apologize just because you said they should. The next opportunity they will do the sae thing that hurt you. They are selfish and mean people.
The smartest thing to do when you are dealing with a toxic person is to leave. It does not matter if the person is in your family or in your friendship circle, do yourself a favor and just leave and move on with your life. Ignore the toxic people. You should find a way to deal with them. Do not let a toxic person be in your life, if you want a happy life.
I am not saying that you should cut your mum, dad or sibling of your life because they are toxic, but you should protect yourself in some way. Find your way to deal with a toxic family member because it is harder to deal with a toxic person in your family. It is different when the toxic family is a friend or a partner.
Anyways, you should never let people disrespect you in any kid of way. When they do, you should leave and protect yourself and your pride. But don’t expect apologies from them. There is a saying that goes like this “real strength is to forgive the people who never ask for forgiveness”. Forgiving the person that did you wrong, will not set them free but will set you free.
Feeling anger and hatred towards them won’t hurt them, but will hurt you. Forgiveness it’s not about them it is about you.